Changing the Date Doesn’t Mean We Aren’t Allowed Sausages
And it doesn’t mean we can’t celebrate Australia for all the things we love about it.
I’ve been thinking about Australia Day and the “change the date” debate.
On one hand, we have the Aboriginal community and a lot of others who aren’t Aboriginal but just get that it’s kinda bad taste to celebrate Australia on the day that a bunch of white pompous pricks came here and began the annihilation of Aboriginal families, culture, way of life, literal lives etc. (Also, let’s not leave out the flow on effect of handing over land management to clueless morons who have fucked it royally and unequivocally.)
On the other hand, people feel personally attacked that we might do a small thing to try and heal the insurmountable pain inflicted on the Aboriginal people.
Changing the date sheds yet more light on the travesty that was the English “settlement” and arouses a great deal of defensiveness among Australian people.
Hopefully most of us are aware of the intergenerational trauma that is experienced by Aboriginal people as a result of the English invasion of their land. If it is a foreign concept to you, well you really need to do some reading.
But something that I have personally never heard anyone talking about is the mentality of non-Aboriginal Australians when it comes to feeling threatened.
Could non-Aboriginal Australians have their own generational baggage (honest question)?
I mean, after said pompous prick had done as much damage to the Aboriginal people’s way of life as they could, most of Australia was populated by…convicts.
Do you think it was a totally fab time to be labelled an outlaw and shipped off to an unknown continent to be enslaved for doing, in some cases, pretty much nothing?
I mean really, think about that, imagine that it was you.
Is it possible that changing the date brings to mind some sort of blame on non-Aboriginal Australian people who were born 200 years after the fact?
Personally, I think it does, and I think it arouses a sort of irrational defensiveness in people.
Like so many other issues facing Australia, we have to deal with our psychological issues instead of what is simple, obvious, kind, scientific and progressive.
Another good example of this was the marriage plebiscite.
There was not one reasonable, kind, scientifically backed or progressive argument against equal marriage rights in Australia.
If we are being honest, what we were really dealing with was fear based self-preservation and hatred from right wing religious conservatives desperately clinging to their slowly dying discriminative belief systems (aka Christianity).
This is the thing I find interesting. Isn’t it just…manners? Have we forgotten what actually happened when Australia was “settled”? Is this topic really such an inconvenience to people? What are we even saying!
“Yeah we all know about the attempted genocide committed by the English invaders in 1788 and the intergenerational trauma that Aboriginal communities are still dealing with today BLAH BLAH BLAAAAAAAHHHH. Shut the fuck up and stop expecting me to care”.
Do you really want to be that guy, or girl?
So, I thought it might be interesting to look at the arguments against actually just changing the damn date.
I personally don’t get it but it’s worth asking the question “what’s everyone so worries about?”.
It’s Just a Day (to you)
Changing the day won’t change what happened.
You know, there isn’t one solitary action that can help with the healing of the Aboriginal people and healing certainly won’t happen overnight, sorry.
If you know anything about healing from trauma you will know that it takes time and a number of small wins along the way.
It might be just a day to you because possibly it wasn’t your loved one/ family/ culture that was brutalised. It is, however, not just another day for the people who lost more than is comprehendible for your average Jo.
My advice is to learn some empathy before you imagine that “it’s just a day” for everyone.
Genocide Happens All Over the World, If It Wasn’t Us It Would Have Just Been Someone Else
The most popular argument against changing the date seems to be that "colonisation and attempted genocide has happened all over the world, so the fact that it happened here makes it irrelevant".
Is that how we tell right from wrong?
Here’s another example.
“that child is likely going to die from starvation so I might as well be the one who kills them as it will almost certainly happen anyway”.
Does that mean killing the child is morally correct and you are absolved of all guilt? This might sound extreme but I have no shit had people argue this exact point with me.
If you’re one of those people, you need to do some research into what a psychopath is.
But in the End, Isn’t Australia Better Off? (c’mon, you know you want to thank us for it)
Just say someone killed your family and as a result was able to invent a whole stack of new technology.
Would you look back on their brutal deaths and go "awesome, because my children were violently murdered I now have an iPad! I definitely wouldn't trade this for my family back!"
If you honestly think that it’s been a fair trade (keeping in mind that THE ABORIGINALS DID NOT NEED US AT ALL TO THRIVE AS A PEOPLE), maybe ask WHO exactly got the better end of that deal…and then proceed to research what a psychopath is.
Don’t Steal Our Culture!
Nobody is saying we can’t have BBQ’s and beer and listen to music and have a day off with family.
There will not be any march of shame through the streets of Sydney, whippings, human sacrifices or abolishment of Australia the way that it is.
All the comradery will just happen on a day that is not January 26th.
I Didn’t Do it, Personally…
That’s right! Either did I. I was born exactly 200 years later. But it doesn’t mean that we can’t help now.
And that’s all anybody is asking.
Not for us to be flogged and believe that we are pieces of worthless shit with no real attachment to this country.
Just be a part of the solution now. Show kindness. Show that we understand and care about something that is a huge part of Australian history.
"We" Do Enough for "Them"
And this my friends, highlights how totally ignorant people are about healing from trauma.
It comes back to my previous point that this kind of healing doesn’t happen overnight. It happens over generations and it happens one small win at a time.
Weigh up both sides.
1. Changing the date will mean we do all of the same things on a day that is not January 26th. We will all have to make a mental note of the date change.
2. Increased empathy, kindness and understanding towards other Australians.
3. Help to acknowledge that the abuse was real (another necessary part of healing from trauma/ abuse)
4. Bridge the divide between “us” and “them”
5. Progress into a society more conductive to good mental health for everybody
Put simply: we can’t change what happened but we can choose to help now.
Thanks for stopping by amigos!